Power in marriage
and Family. 
In a talk given by
Richard B. Miller, a BYU faculty member, he gave the following advice:
1. Parents are the leaders in the family.
“Discipline is probably one of the most important elements in which a mother and father can lead and guide and direct their children…. Setting limits to what a child can do means to that child that you love him and respect him. If you permit the child to do all the things he would like to do without any limits that means to him that you do not care much about him.”(Spencer W. Kimball, TSWK pp. 340, 341).
1. Parents are the leaders in the family.
“Discipline is probably one of the most important elements in which a mother and father can lead and guide and direct their children…. Setting limits to what a child can do means to that child that you love him and respect him. If you permit the child to do all the things he would like to do without any limits that means to him that you do not care much about him.”(Spencer W. Kimball, TSWK pp. 340, 341).
I really like the
counsel he quoted from Dr. John Rosemont: “Give your child regular, daily doses
of vitamin N…the most character- building two-lettered word in the English
language- NO”. We give too much to children, they expect too much, and do
too little.
2. “Parents must be united in their leadership.” This brings security to our children's lives and peace in our homes. Never speak ill of your spouse or disrespect them, especially in front of the children. Don’t allow one parent to side with a child against another parent.
3. “The marital relationship should be a partnership. In a marriage husbands and wives are equals.
2. “Parents must be united in their leadership.” This brings security to our children's lives and peace in our homes. Never speak ill of your spouse or disrespect them, especially in front of the children. Don’t allow one parent to side with a child against another parent.
3. “The marital relationship should be a partnership. In a marriage husbands and wives are equals.
“A
man who holds the priesthood accepts his wife as a partner in the leadership of
the home and family with full knowledge of and full participation in all
decisions relating thereto… The Lord intended that the wife be a helpmeet for
man (meet means equal)—that is, a companion equal and necessary in full
partnership. (Howard W. Hunter, Ensign, November 1994, p. 49)
(“Who Is the Boss? Power Relationships in Families.” (BYU Conference on Family Life, Brigham Young University, March 28, 2009)
When a couple has a problem on decisions, they should remember the words of President Monson from the following video: "Never let a problem to be solved become more important that a person to be loved."
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